Perspective

When I was a little philly, I day dreamed about being an adult and married with a cute cape cod and some really cute kids living in it. I always thought I would have a really trendy career and my husband would have a 9-5 gig. 

I don't have the trendy career, I am a proud stay at home mom and my husband has a trendy bar tending job and drives for UBER and LYFT on the side. I have the cute cape cod and the cute kids. I am definitely blessed.

Here's the thing!
I came from a broken home. A lot of kids come from broken homes. I made a bunch of mistakes as a young person, I still make the occasional bad choice as an adult. I do however fix them or deal with them. No excuses! Why can't others realize this too? I always knew life wasn't going to be easy, people who seem to have everything didn't get to that point because of hand outs or some one always taking the blame/fall for them. They still have to wake up, figure out how to get where they want to be or continue on the path they chose to get where they are now. 
I'm far from perfect, my husband might disagree with that but he knows it and I know he isn't perfect. We have tough days, a lot of them, and are still learning how to get through them. But we don't just give up and expect it to be fixed for us. We occasionally accept defeat and move on but make sure the outcome will not effect our children or the ones we love. We believe that no matter how hard the job is, or how much we hate it, we have to do it. As parents, we have not only our lives to look out for but the lives we created and are blessed to see everyday we wake up. Everyone has a choice to wake up and make something good happen or the opposite. What I don't understand is how someone wakes up and chooses to make the wrong one or atleast doesn't try to make the right one and expects the outcome of the wrong choice to be fixed for them. I will help my kids up when they fall, but that's because they are kids. I will teach them how to fix it so it won't happen in the future. When my children are adults, I hope they know that when things get tough, I will help but I won't take responsibility for their actions and won't fix it for them because while they were growing they were taught how to fix it. I'm sorry if makes me a mean mom but I want to see my kids grow and become self sufficient adults. That's my job! 
All in all, find the right path. Take it and even if it seems like the right path is more difficult or never ending, just keep swimming! The path wasn't made to be easy!
*unless it's a clock, throw it away and buy a new one* 

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